My Beautiful Mess

{Day 6} Pillars, Candlesticks, & Tealights

candlelight christmas

There is definitely something about the soft glow of candlelight. It’s romantic, it’s elegant, and it requires no batteries or electricity to be beautiful. I do own a few of the battery operated candles and love that they require no effort, but I still prefer a real candle when entertaining. Again, almost all of my candlesticks shown in my photos were purchased at either Home Goods or one of its sister stores. Not a single one cost me over 19.99. If I find candles in gold or silver that also have a unique texture to them I almost always will scoop them up. I feel it adds a little more interest and character to them over the traditional ivory candle pillars. Not that ivory is boring, I use those too…but I mix them with my golds and silvers. I also LOVE floating candles. Not much is required to make them look pretty and they can be used with almost anyRead more …

{Day 5} Trees & Reindeer

christmas decor

Two decorating items that I have in all types of variations are trees and reindeer. They are perfect to pair with almost any scene you are creating when decorating. My entryway consists of a number of different trees, paired with reindeer, a santa, and some candles. When decorating your mantel or entry table, try mixing your mercury glass with different textures of trees. I have mine paired with my glitter trees and matte gold reindeer. Reindeer usually come in pairs, but you don’t have to keep them together. I have them scattered throughout my decor. On Day 2, I wrote about my love for faux fur. Guess what? I don’t just use it to snuggle up with! Occasionally, I will drape it over a piece of furniture and set my scene on top of it. I have a lot of dark, heavy wood in my home and this is one way to “soften” it up. Another decorator tip I learnedRead more …

{Day 4} Lights, Lights, & More Lights!

christmas lighting

In fashion, one can never have too many shoes. In decorating for the holidays, one can never have too many lights! Lights can turn the ordinary into extraordinary! There are so many fun uses for them and the options are endless. I have 3 different types that I consider my “must haves” for my holiday decorating. Fairy Lights. I buy mine in bulk on Amazon **. They are battery operated and they work so well in my vases and jars. The battery pack is clear, not black, so it makes it a little easier to disguise in my vases. They have 8 different setting options from “steady on” to “slo-glow” and also come with a remote. Another benefit is that there is a timer feature on them so they automatically turn “on” and “off” for 6 hours a day. What is easier than that? I find these fairy lights also look amazing in lanterns inside or outside! Just make sureRead more …

12 Days of Decorating for Christmas

Holiday Decor Ideas

It’s the most wonderful time of year! I love everything about Christmas. I love the music, the decorations, the lights, the time spent with loved ones, and most of all, the significance of what Christmas truly means for each and every one of us. I also love transforming my home into a glittery, winter wonderland. I love the way that a room can feel so warm and inviting by the soft glow of candle light or the crackling of a fire. It really is a magical time of year.   I thought it would be fun to kick off the month of December with twelve days of my favorite decorating tips for Christmas. Each day I will share with you a different “look” or idea that I use in my home and hopefully it will inspire a little creativity for you, too! Thank you for joining me and I hope that you enjoy these next 12 days of decorating ideas! If youRead more …

Parenting During the Teen Years

Aug 11, 2017 | Posted by in Mom Life, My Beautiful Mess | 0

There’s no doubt about it, parenting is hard. Parenting during the teen years…now THAT is a whole ‘nother beast entirely. And I admit, I have not always done it with grace. There was a time, about a year ago, I felt like I was failing. Trying to connect to my teenage daughter seemed almost impossible. I felt as if I was losing her. Then, during that time, my eleven year old son began to show “the signs.” I could barely handle one hormone raging teen in my home, but two? I seriously felt like I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. I bought books, searched the internet for relative articles, cried a ton, and desperately sought out other girlfriends that had already walked through the thick of it. I knew if things didn’t change with my daughter, she would slip away even further and I was terrified. My daughter is so much like me and, at times, IRead more …

The Nitty Gritty of Owning a Timeshare

Jan 19, 2017 | Posted by in My Beautiful Mess, My Thoughts | Comments Off on The Nitty Gritty of Owning a Timeshare
Timeshare

My husband and I made the mistake of purchasing a timeshare. Twice. You’d think we would have learned from the first one, but unfortunately, we are slow learners. And it has been a very expensive learning curve! You’ve received those offers in the mail, right? The ones that seem too good to be true? The ones that offer you a 5 night, 6 day stay at a resort that looks so amazing, you wish you could be there right then! “What? Only 299 per COUPLE (as in TWO people!?) for the ENTIRE stay?” Too good to be true? That depends. If you can go, sacrifice 90+ minutes of your life that you will never get back to listen to their presentation, and stay true to the word “no”, then I say, go and enjoy an awesome discounted vacation! The problem is, most of us go with the intention of saying “no”, but after the 4 glasses of free champagne, all theRead more …

Allowing Your Kids to Experience Pain and Disappointment

Jun 12, 2016 | Posted by in Mom Life, My Beautiful Mess | 0

Pain and disappointment. Oh, how I wish that I could wrap my kids up and protect them from never experiencing its sting. I would say that allowing your child to experience pain and resisting the urge to not jump in and save them from disappointment is one of the hardest things to do as a parent. We see that all too often these days…kid’s athletic teams where the scoreboard always is “even”, award ceremonies where everyone is the “all star player”, competitions where there is no real “winner” or “loser”. But where exactly is the lesson in all of that? Because from my perspective, the message that we are getting across to these children is that there is no growth to be found in pain, loss, or defeat, which is just not true. In fact, I believe that we need those painful experiences as children to learn the coping skills that will come in handy when they grow up toRead more …

Why I’m Not Spending Mother’s Day With My Kids

May 8, 2016 | Posted by in Mom Life, My Beautiful Mess, My Thoughts | 0
mother's day

I love my kids. Really I do. But this Mother’s Day I am spending it away from them, rather than with them. Now, before you go and pass judgement on me that I would actually choose to not be with the two human beings that actually made me a mother, let me explain. Every year, my mom and I take a “mother/daughter” trip to Palm Springs. This year, when we were looking at dates, one of the only options for us to get away together was the week of Mother’s Day. With my daughter’s upcoming show rehearsal schedule, it was not an option for us to go as a family, so that meant if I left, my husband would need to stay back and handle all the responsibilities for the week. Not only that, but I would be gone on Mother’s Day…tough decision. Do I go away with my mother and celebrate her, leaving my family behind, or do I stay atRead more …

Tossing Out Perfection

Apr 21, 2016 | Posted by in My Beautiful Mess, My Thoughts | 0

Perfectionism. It is one of my many flaws. It cripples me from moving forward in so many aspects of my life because I obsess over the need for it to be “perfect”. In fact, even this particular blog post has sat in a draft for days because I will read it, re-read it and always feel there is something that can be improved upon. And, if you are going to embark on this journey with me, you too, will see that there will always be something that could’ve been improved upon. If you are one of those people that gets distracted easily by flaws in a piece of writing, I am telling you right now, I am not your girl. HOWEVER, if you can appreciate openness, honesty, and vulnerability, then we will get along just fine. I believe in “full-disclosure” upfront, so that if you continue to keep reading, I can speak from my heart, and not worry I amRead more …

My Beautiful Mess

Apr 19, 2016 | Posted by in Faith, Marriage, My Beautiful Mess, My Thoughts | Comments Off on My Beautiful Mess

Life is messy. As a mom, wife, and working woman, there are days I feel like super-woman, then there are days I feel I’m not so super at all. There are days I feel I am raising well-mannered, respectful children, then there are days I wonder where I went wrong. There are moments when I feel I have a lot to offer my spouse, then there are times when I feel I have nothing left to give. There are mornings I wake up thinking I can “rock” my skinny jeans and heels, then there are mornings I wish I didn’t have to get dressed. And then to top it all off, I scroll through Facebook and feel I am alone in my struggle because everyone else on my feed seems to be getting “mom of the year” awards, with a glass of wine in their hand, while their 5 kids are perfectly posed in their pressed linens. The constant pressureRead more …