Mom Life

Blog about being a mom, wife, and friend and how to love my life in the midst of chaos

Parenting During the Teen Years

Aug 11, 2017 | Posted by in Mom Life, My Beautiful Mess | 0

There’s no doubt about it, parenting is hard. Parenting during the teen years…now THAT is a whole ‘nother beast entirely. And I admit, I have not always done it with grace. There was a time, about a year ago, I felt like I was failing. Trying to connect to my teenage daughter seemed almost impossible. I felt as if I was losing her. Then, during that time, my eleven year old son began to show “the signs.” I could barely handle one hormone raging teen in my home, but two? I seriously felt like I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. I bought books, searched the internet for relative articles, cried a ton, and desperately sought out other girlfriends that had already walked through the thick of it. I knew if things didn’t change with my daughter, she would slip away even further and I was terrified. My daughter is so much like me and, at times, IRead more …

Allowing Your Kids to Experience Pain and Disappointment

Jun 12, 2016 | Posted by in Mom Life, My Beautiful Mess | 0

Pain and disappointment. Oh, how I wish that I could wrap my kids up and protect them from never experiencing its sting. I would say that allowing your child to experience pain and resisting the urge to not jump in and save them from disappointment is one of the hardest things to do as a parent. We see that all too often these days…kid’s athletic teams where the scoreboard always is “even”, award ceremonies where everyone is the “all star player”, competitions where there is no real “winner” or “loser”. But where exactly is the lesson in all of that? Because from my perspective, the message that we are getting across to these children is that there is no growth to be found in pain, loss, or defeat, which is just not true. In fact, I believe that we need those painful experiences as children to learn the coping skills that will come in handy when they grow up toRead more …

Why I’m Not Spending Mother’s Day With My Kids

May 8, 2016 | Posted by in Mom Life, My Beautiful Mess, My Thoughts | 0
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I love my kids. Really I do. But this Mother’s Day I am spending it away from them, rather than with them. Now, before you go and pass judgement on me that I would actually choose to not be with the two human beings that actually made me a┬ámother, let me explain. Every year, my mom and I take a “mother/daughter” trip to Palm Springs. This year, when we were looking at dates, one of the only options for us to get away together was the week of Mother’s Day. With my daughter’s upcoming show rehearsal schedule, it was not an option for us to go as a family, so that meant if I left, my husband would need to stay back and handle all the responsibilities for the week. Not only that, but I would be gone on Mother’s Day…tough decision. Do I go away with my mother and celebrate her,┬áleaving my family behind, or do I stay atRead more …